September 26, 2016

Awkward & Awesome

I can't believe September is almost over. I feel like it was last week that we moved to Pittsburgh, and were so happy to have an extra day off for Labor Day. Dave and I are really getting in to a good routine, and I am so happy to finally feel settled. 

Life is so different than it was in Norfolk. When we lived there, I felt like we weren't really accomplishing anything, if that makes sense? But now we are both working towards goals, which feels so good. Being able to work together as individuals, for the best interest of our family feels so good.

Honestly, I had some concerns about this huge change we have made. We went from two incomes to one, and switched it up to a more urban style of living. 

But really, I think we are doing so well here because we are both so happy with where we are at as individuals. I love my job. Dave loves his classes. We love being able to explore, learn, and grow together while we get to know our new city.


Anywho, enough of my rambling. Of course life is awesome, but it is still awkward too.


-Since moving to Pittsburgh, we have been doing SO much more walking than we ever have. Last weekend I was walking down the street to meet Dave for happy hour... minding my own business... listening to an audiobook, when BAM. I tripped over the sidewalk right in front of a group of college kids. Smooth one.

-Let's talk about post wedding weight gain. I actually started gaining some weight right before the wedding, because I "was on vacation," and indulging in everything. This continued through our move, when we would order out all the time. I don't even WANT to step on the scale, but I know I've gained about 10 pounds. Girl has got to get this rear back in gear. 

-The weather is nuts right now. It is usually in the upper 50s when I leave for work, but then at lunch time it could be in the 80s, and then in the evening the 70s. No wonder I had a massive cold last week. This weather has also meant TONS of fruit flies in our kitchen. I can deal with spiders, and other creepy-crawlies, but flying insects just infuriate me. I do have a pretty good trap to kill them, but it seems like I can't catch enough!


-Guys, I have my own office. With a WINDOW AND A DOOR. Funny story, on my first day, I came into the reception area, and sat down my stuff. I thought that was my desk, until my boss came in and was like....no, that's your office over there. Cue the angels singing. I've been slowly decorating my office, and bringing in stuff from home. Right now it seems so fresh, and bright, with lots of plants, which have remained alive for a month and a half so far!

-I have been ADDICTED to reading in my spare time. I told Dave the other night that I just want to read everything, and have it all in my brain. I read mostly fiction, but I have been reading a lot of historical fiction (as per usual), and I want to know everything. If you aren't already, follow me on Goodreads to catch up!

-I mentioned it a little while ago, but I was on the hunt for a new water bottle after mine got lost. Well I finally found an awesome one, that was within my budget. I ordered this bottle from Bed Bath and Beyond, and am SO thrilled with it. I put ice water in it before I went to sleep, set it on my nightstand, and it was still full of ice in the morning. Plus you can't beat that price and the matte finish.

-Speaking of shopping, I just bought my THIRD Day Designer. I know I mentioned that I was using a legal pad a couple of weeks ago, but my OCD self stepped back in and I have been using my DayDesigner since then. I ordered the Flagship Edition in the Plus print, but I also really love Sweet Geo and Palms prints too.

-I got all the materials needed to make a really cool home DIY project. I haven't done a DIY project in a long time that wasn't wedding related, so I'm excited to do something just for fun. I can't wait to show you!

Happy last week of September everyone!

September 23, 2016

How Does it Feel to be a Wife?

I was inspired to write a post like this when I saw Macy write one last year. Just like her, I get asked this all the time. It also could come in the form of "Does it feel any different to be married?" It doesn't bother me when people ask, but it still seems weird. Kind of like how it was weird when people asked me if I was nervous to get married.


Honestly, it doesn't feel ANY different between Dave and me. Our relationship is pretty much the same. Which is awesome. I'm glad nothing is different because I think we have a great thing. We have been married just short of three months, but I have to think that the TEN YEARS we spent dating each other and being engaged has to count for something. In our day to day lives, my role as a wife isn't really that much different than my role as a girlfriend or fiancée.

I think that for couples who don't live together before marriage, there is so much more that changes. Living with someone shows you EXACTLY who they are. When you combine cohabitation with other things that come with marriage (changing names, combining money, etc.), there is much more of a lifestyle change.

The biggest difference is that my name changed, and we officially--as in lawfully--became the Yargeau family. I chose to change my name when we got married to help reinforce the feeling of teamwork, and working together as a family unit. I have to say… this has been the hardest to get used to. I didn’t change my name until we

Dave and I firmly believe (and work on every day) the value in working as a team. We support each other in so many ways, share, and solve problems together. I have never felt so close to him as I do right now, and to be honest, I see a lot less of him. #gradschoolproblems

I also love being able to call him my husband. “My husband goes to CMU.” Or “my husband cooked lasagna for dinner last night!” It just makes me feel so good, and love him all the more.

One of the things that I have also noticed is how OTHER PEOPLE seem to treat us differently as a married couple. It’s as if now that we are married, our relationship is more legitimate in other’s eyes. I don’t agree with this way of thinking whatsoever, but it is just my observation. Dave can now pick up my prescriptions much easier. I added him to my car insurance without any questions. So weird.

So after all that rambling (jeeze, it’s Friday. I can’t even get my thoughts in order)… My answer to the question “how does it feel to be a wife?” is that it feels great. But it felt great before I was a wife too, so not all that much has changed.

September 21, 2016

#teamwhywedding: Family Photos

Happy Wedding Wednesday my loves! I've been trying to plan out my WW posts for the rest of the year... is there anything specific you want to see? Let me know in the comments. 

Today we are gonna chat about our formal family photos. I have to be honest, guys... I was nervous about this part of the wedding day. How do you get so many people to come and go when needed, and then to all smile/not blink. 

The answer, of course is to have a good photographer. I was beyond happy to be working with Robin from Robin Fox Photography for our wedding. She also did our engagement photos, which turned out so good. 

I gave Robin a shot list the week before the wedding, and gave her the run down on some of our family's personalities. She was totally cool, and kept things running so smoothly. We did photos during cocktail hour, and got them done in about 20 min.

One of my biggest pieces of advice that I tell brides planning their wedding is to not skimp when choosing a photographer. You are not only paying for their beautiful  work, but also their people skills, customer service, etc. Robin was so great at this, and I think we had a great experience.  

And now, for some photos:






Had to get a silly one with my siblings there at the end. You wouldn't know it, but almost this whole time, I had something on my contact, and could not. see. a. thing. (turned out to be mascara, thanks tears). I basically just posted myself right in that spot, and turned a little bit to fit the photo that was being taken. Right after this I RAN back into the bridal suite to put some eyedrops in. It's the little memories :)

September 16, 2016

End of Summer Mixed Berry Cobbler

When Labor Day Weekend rolled around this year, I knew that I wanted to make a cobbler. Cobblers are one of my favorite desserts, and I love that they are always so different depending on the fruit that you use. 

I bought some fresh berries at the store, and decided that I would make a mixed berry cobbler to enjoy at our Labor Day picnic. 


This recipe originated at Bake or Break. Jennifer has a HUGE collection of breads, desserts and other treats that all just seem so delicious. Now that I have my very own Kitchen Aid Mixer, I am so excited to try out some more baked goods.


Ingredients: 

3-4 cups assorted berries chopped into bite size chunks
1 tablespoon lemon juice
1 cup all-purpose flour
1/2 teaspoon baking powder
1/2 teaspoon salt
1/2 cup unsalted butter, softened
3/4 cup packed light brown sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla extract
Lemon zest to taste

Directions:

-Preheat oven to 375°F. Grease a 9”x 6” rectangular or 8” round baking dish. (I used a 8"x 8" square pan.
-Place the berries in prepared pan. Drizzle with lemon juice. This is where you can add in some lemon zest for a very fresh flavor.
-Whisk together the flour, baking powder, and salt.
-In a medium bowl, beat the butter, brown sugar, and vanilla until well-blended. Mix in the dry ingredients until mixture resembles crumbs. Drop the dough crumbs evenly on top of the berry mixture.
-Bake for about 30 minutes, or until the top is golden and the fruit is bubbling.

This is delicious when served with a scoop of vanilla ice cream, or a nice dollop of whipped cream. It makes a wonderful, fresh dessert (or breakfast, if you are me), for the end of summer.

September 14, 2016

#teamwhywedding: The Ceremony

One of the things that was most important to me for this wedding was having a ceremony that was personal to us. We decided early on that we did not want to get married in a church, as we both prefer the outdoors. The other very important thing was that we wanted someone close to us to be the one to marry us. It felt more personal that way. 

Dave's Uncle Jim married us, and I am so glad that we went that way. We were able to write the ceremony with him, and he had little anecdotes about Dave, me and our relationship. We also kept the ceremony short and sweet.

We decided to say some pretty traditional vows, but we also wrote something to each other. I wrote mine about a month before the wedding, and then put it on to paper the morning of the wedding. I could hardly get through it I was crying so much. 


Dave said he was surprised how deep my vows to him were. I normally am not someone who is very expressive in conversation, but since I had so long to think about these vows, and prepare them ahead of time, I was ready to let it out! I'm not quite ready to share the vows with the internet, but maybe some day!

Now my husband on the other hand, sort of went off the cuff. He had some points that he wanted to make, but the vows themselves he came up with on the spot. His vows made everyone laugh (of course), and it was nice and fresh that he was speaking his mind.


We had one of our best, longtime friends Andrew do a reading for us. Dave was very interested in picking out a reading, and once we found this one, we knew. Our parents didn't particularly love it, because it wasn't lovey or romantic. I think it was perfect about actual marriage, instead of just loving each other (which at this point I think is a given).

On Marriage -- Kahlil Gibran
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

After that, we exchanged the more traditional vows, and rings. Then I finally got to kiss my husband! In that moment I felt so excited, but such a sense of calm at the same time.



The ceremony was incredibly emotional for everyone, and you could feel the love from our friends and family as they supported us, and were just so excited for us to make this commitment to each other. After that, it was time for everyone to party!!