September 14, 2016

#teamwhywedding: The Ceremony

One of the things that was most important to me for this wedding was having a ceremony that was personal to us. We decided early on that we did not want to get married in a church, as we both prefer the outdoors. The other very important thing was that we wanted someone close to us to be the one to marry us. It felt more personal that way. 

Dave's Uncle Jim married us, and I am so glad that we went that way. We were able to write the ceremony with him, and he had little anecdotes about Dave, me and our relationship. We also kept the ceremony short and sweet.

We decided to say some pretty traditional vows, but we also wrote something to each other. I wrote mine about a month before the wedding, and then put it on to paper the morning of the wedding. I could hardly get through it I was crying so much. 

Dave said he was surprised how deep my vows to him were. I normally am not someone who is very expressive in conversation, but since I had so long to think about these vows, and prepare them ahead of time, I was ready to let it out! I'm not quite ready to share the vows with the internet, but maybe some day!

Now my husband on the other hand, sort of went off the cuff. He had some points that he wanted to make, but the vows themselves he came up with on the spot. His vows made everyone laugh (of course), and it was nice and fresh that he was speaking his mind.

We had one of our best, longtime friends Andrew do a reading for us. Dave was very interested in picking out a reading, and once we found this one, we knew. Our parents didn't particularly love it, because it wasn't lovey or romantic. I think it was perfect about actual marriage, instead of just loving each other (which at this point I think is a given).

On Marriage -- Kahlil Gibran
You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

After that, we exchanged the more traditional vows, and rings. Then I finally got to kiss my husband! In that moment I felt so excited, but such a sense of calm at the same time.

The ceremony was incredibly emotional for everyone, and you could feel the love from our friends and family as they supported us, and were just so excited for us to make this commitment to each other. After that, it was time for everyone to party!!

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