June 12, 2017

Dating Your Spouse

Someone asked me recently if I had any advice for newlyweds. And even though our situation is a little bit different because Dave and I have been together for eleven years now, there's one thing that I've definitely learned in the past year since we've been married.

I think that the most important thing a couple can do in their marriage is to always continue to date each other. 

This goes for all couples, not just married ones. Life is hard and stressful sometimes, so make sure to take a break from it and enjoy your time together. All too often we get bogged down by the little daily things. He got a parking ticket. She spent too much money this month. Dinner was burned. The cat threw up on the carpet.

It is so easy to fall into the trap of interacting with your spouse in just that daily capacity. But I think that is a recipe for disaster.

I'm not going to lie to you... this year has been tough for us. Money is tight, we are both busy, and we are still adjusting to being a married couple in a new city. Lots of changes mean even more room to let stress creep in. 

But this year Dave and I have been making the commitment to have one date night per week. And you know what? It's been the best thing ever. We usually do date night on Wednesdays, and we both look forward to it. It is a time where we can relax together, reconnect in the middle of a busy week, sometimes try new things. It's just been great.

One important thing to know is that having date night doesn't mean you have to go out and spend money. I can't tell you how many nights we've stayed in, eaten pizza, watched a movie, and did a facemask (sorry Dave, I had to!).

Take a minute and connect with each other. Choose your spouse every day.

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